Monday, June 24, 2013

Uncomplete Completeness (The Fictional Expectations of a Future Spouse)

"You complete me."

          Have you ever heard the quote above? It's actually quite well known in romantic movies. If I'm not mistaken, the movie that is most famous for it is Jerry MacGuire. Remember that beautiful scene? It was great, wasn't it?

          Now, I might step on couple of toes here, and especially those who are known for being romantics. But it's also possible you might find it very true. In short, basically, what I want to say is:

NO ONE HUMAN BEING can complete you. 

         Can you imagine expecting another imperfect human being to complete you? If you have ever done this, than you will believe me when I say that you will be disappointed. There is no one on this entire planet Earth who could fulfill your every physical and emotional need. But don't feel too bad, because that just means that you can't either. So if you are seeking someone to complete you, then turn to the Only One who can do that: God.

         Now that I made that important point, I want to make my next important point. I know it must be very sad now that you know that you will never find that other half who will complete you ♀♂! But no worries! I have totally solved this problem: You should replace this expectation of being completed by another human being. And I have just the perfect expectation to replace it with☺: For a spouse-candidate you should expect that person to complement you! <---This way you are seeking someone who will complement you in what you lack physical and/or emotionally instead of completing them!

TIP: Most of the time, people find that they are complemented by someone who has their opposite temperament. There are four basic temperaments: (Extroverts:) Sanguine, Choleric, (Introverts:) Melancholic, and Phlegmatic. Most times, people find that if they are an extrovert, they are best complemented by an introvert (and vice-versa).

Happy Spouse-Candidate Hunting! ☼


BTW, please don't start searching unless you are really looking to get married. It can be frustrating for the other person who just might have marriage set to a "soon" mode!

Blessings and please be graceful on this day,
~Julissa

Friday, June 21, 2013

Light in Darkness, It's Gotta Be Noticed!

Have you ever been in a completely dark room? Like when you turn off the light in your room to go to sleep? Well, in that darkness...what happens when you turn on the light? Wouldn't you agree that it is totally noticeable? Even the slightest bit of light is noticeable when it's that dark.

You might answer: "Yeah, so..."

Well, here is the point I am trying to make:

According to Matthew 5:14-16, as Christians we are supposed to be the light of the world...and a noticeable one at that: " You are the light of the world. A city on top of a hill can’t be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a basket. Instead, they put it on top of a lamp stand, and it shines on all who are in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before people, so they can see the good things you do and praise your Father who is in heaven" (CEB).

In other words, if you haven't been noticed, made fun of, or pointed out for being a Christian you are not being a light! You are being a useless light, hidden under the bed! 

Blessings,
~Julissa