self-es·teem[self-i-steem, self-] Show IPA
a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect.
an inordinately or exaggeratedly favorable impression of oneself.
Definition 1: I believe this was what self-esteem was originally supposed to instill in our generations. To simply have a realistic view of one self. You can't sing? Well, guess what...then you can do something else! You're not good at math, but you might be good at biology. Your IQ may not be that high, or you may not be very attractive. You are overweight, not "chubby" and not "a little thick." You're underweight...not "skinny" and the list goes on. Call it what it is. BUT...REGARDLESS...learn to accept and respect yourself anyway.
Definition 2: This is what the world teaches now. We have to make our children feel good about themselves even when they are doing the wrong things, even if they are making all the wrong decisions, and even if their lives are out of control. We just say: "It's okay." Oh, and we make them think that they are geniuses even if their IQ is 50!
Notice how these definitions are totally inconsistent because of the definition that "self-esteem" is being given by all these psychologists that are recommending on our children! This is more like "elevated-esteem" not "self-esteem."
You're probably now wondering why I am even talking about this if I don't even have children. Well, it's because I'm scared. I'm scared for all our generations to come because this kind of "elevated-esteem" is even infiltrating our churches. It's disgusting.
We are teaching our children in church that it's okay to make all the wrong decisions and all the sinful actions because God will simply forgive you. It's okay to have your children think that they already know it all (even if they are only 4 years old) <--I witnessed this first-hand. It's okay to ignore The Bible because God is merciful. We give our children all these fancy titles because we just love what 1 Peter 2:9 says:"But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light." Oh, and let us not forget that we love to call our musicians "The Levites." And you know what I see when I hear this? I hear PRIDE! And I also hear ignorance.
Do we even realize what it means to be a Holy Nation? To be separated from sin? To put all our effort into being Holy? What about being a royal priesthood? Has anybody ever cared to even check and see all the requirements that priesthood required? Let us not even go into what The Levites had to go through. And of course, we love to read 1 Peter 2:9, about how great we are and we totally ignore what it says at the end of the verse, where it says: "who called you out of darkness!!!!!!" In other words, IF you are entitled to these titles is because GOD did what was necessary...NOT YOU! You are nothing without God. There are consequences to SIN regardless of how much God loves you. So don't think that you are Mr. or Mrs. Royalty or Mr. Pretty Boy or what-have-you, because regardless of what you think you are, your actions do have consequences. Don't think of yourself more than who you really are.
Nobody likes to ever talk about Romans 12:3: "For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you."
Do you need me to spell it out for you? Oh, wait! I did!
So please, next time you try to praise anyone for something that they did wrong, remember...YOU ARE WRONG in praising them for that. Don't tell your child she is Mariah Carey, when they can hardly sing a note. Don't tell your child he is the smartest kid alive, when he doesn't even know his alphabet at age 6! Telling them this to make them "feel good" about themselves IS wrong. Tell them their answer on a test was WRONG when it is wrong! Tell them they shouldn't have yelled at their friend because it was RUDE! And obviously I'm not saying that you ignore God's grace and never introduce it to people...NO! You don't. You tell people that God WILL forgive them, but nonetheless, it doesn't mean that you tell them it was OKAY to sin or that forgiveness is a magic wand that will put them on a pedestal.
WOW! That was long. I guess I'm pretty passionate about this, lol. Enough rambling about that, haha!
And please, guys...remember...if you ask your child what 7+9 equals...if they say 79, the answer is WRONG! ♥ ☺
♦ Julissa Mena ♦